Yes, You. You might have fanned the narcissist in you by regularly coming on Facebook. To be frank, there is a narcissist in everyone of us, deep-down. We love to have attention and become celebrities among our own friends, given an opportunity.But this might have become a NEED and a DOSE that you need to be regularly fed upon. And the social network FACEBOOK might just be waking that monster in us and making it greedier each day. You like many might be obsessed with your persona. Do you frequently post your random pictures and wait for the avalanche of likes and comments to pour in? Do you write status that explain what you had for morning and what you didn't? Do your status have more "I, me, myself' than anything else? Do you feel sad when your new pic gets 10 likes less than you thought it would? Do you feel anxious if your notifications bar hasn't turned red today? Then perhaps you are already or almost a Narcissist, my dear friend. Reasons Facebook isn't that great a thing. A) NURSING EGO?
Facebook might be a place where some people are busy repairing their damaged self-egos. It is a lifeline to make a reputation of your own in front of all the people you know. Grand grand stage!
You are friends with someone you barely said HELLO to in your school days. And their name didn't even come back to you until they sent a friend request. Still, you are interested knowing the details of their everyday life? OR may be there are some real old friend? Really? So, you guys are very close friends who prefer not to call each other and facebook rather. It is like----“ Be my friend so that I know you still exist” I don't want to know what had for breakfast, lunch and dinner. I don't find your live feed like a celebrity on twitter. You want the world to know how much percent in love you are today, how many sheeps you need for your farmville, when have u reached the next bus-stop, why you love your Fridays, and how cute your dog is. Soooo bored today". Okay. So what?
In case you yourself are doing this, just pause the next time you do it and ask for whom you a are writing this? A bunch of 340 people who don't care how Bored you feel!!!!!!!!!!!!!
So, 783 friends? Nice! But how social are you? How many friends out of these have you met in-person in last two years? How many call you when you're sad ? how many know what is not on your wall and in your heart? Deeep inside you know that real friends are the ones with whom you can find ways other than facebook to meet… Come on! Accept it. You are tempted to visit profiles of people to see what is happening in their lives? What your ex-boyfriend/girlfriend is doing these days? And is that pretty lady back with some new pictures?Facebook is an easy-to-stalk platform unlike Orkut and hence you have no qualms about judging people based on their PROFILES? Really? Last but not least. Time. Just think if you replace daily facebook time with some physical work or reading novels or some nature sightseeing, how much time you start to find for yourself. The day all of a sudden would be bigger. Eyes all of a sudden less strained. Mind all of a sudden less occupied.
I am not spreading FACEBOOK hate. I don’t intend to.Neither I am misanthropist. I love to interact and stay social. But I feel FACBOOK isn't the right way to do so. I have felt pangs of narcissism myself at times. It is a choice like every other thing. But I want to know what Facebook can make you do if unchecked and uncurbed. Limit your activity to important stuff like staying in touch with real friends and relatives. Or else, you might walk down the narcissist road where you need Appreciation to be fed upon.
Hot Tip: Indulge in facebook when you are already pre-occupied with a lot of things so that you don’t find much time for it. If you’re idle then facebook can be your workshop, going by an age old Idiom!!