"The bitterest tears shed over graves are for the words left unsaid and deeds left undone"- Harriet Beecher Stowe
I have this horrible habit of repenting my decision. After seeing some delicacy being ordered by someone else in a restaurant- I regret why I did not order that particular thing. I regret my choice of optional subjects- right before exam- fantasizing that my life would have been better with the easier optionals.
I'm obsessed with the habit of repenting over trivial things.
You may not be as repentant as I am. But let me buy it- at times you do regrets the choices you made- career choice/ relationship choice etc. etc.
However, you should not leave any regrets. And I'm not saying that. It is the second secret expounded by Dr. Izzo- in Five Secrets You Must Discover Before you Die
. (You can read about the First Secret here
|John Izzo- Author of The Five Secrets You Must Discover before you Die|
Secret # 2- Leave No RegretsDo you want to live a life, at the end of which, you will look back and wished you would have done things differently?At the end of our lives you will not regret risks you took that did not work out as you hoped but you will regret the risks not taken.
Though there is a possibility of failing when you take a new step but then the failure is certain merely by choosing not to try at all.A life of no regret means risking more- A Story
Author interviewed a woman called May in her seventies. She had been working on 6 different boks over several decades yet all of them were unfinished.
When author asked her, why she had all those unfinished boos, she said: "All of my life, I have left things unfinished. I thought it was just procrastination. But as I reflect on it, I believe I have not finished those books because if I ever do finish them, I would have to let someone read them. And if I let someone read them, perhaps they will tell me that I cannot write. I suppose it is the fear of rejection that has kept me from finishing"
For this fear of rejection, or failure, or because we are not sure we can succeed, we die with our book, our dreams, our story inside.How to live a life with no regrets? Take Risks
- not with the image of the worst thing that could happen if you fail. Envisage the highest possible good that could occur by taking that risk.Choose the path that makes the best story
- Author interviewed a woman called Margaret who told him how she tried to live her life from the perspective if an old woman sitting in a rocking chair on the porch. Whenever she had a decision to make, she asked herself, " When I am an old woman sitting in my rocking chair thinking about my life, what decision will I wish I had made?"
In most cases, the path she should take became clearer to her.
A life with glitches for risks not taken will certainly not make the best story.Live as if your time is short
- What decisions will you make- if you just have today to live- so as you don't have any regret.
Why not to make those choices otherwise as well.The Last Question
What step would you take in your life right now if you were acting with courage and not fear? What will you do differently if you were living from the perspective of an old person on the porch looking back at your life?
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