Date: 6/26/2012 5:30:00 AM
MY daughter keeps saying to me..when men were exploiting women, nobody said anything but today when women are doing it, there is so much of noise everywhere. I told her that it wasnt so. Men were also blamed but at that time there were not many avenues to publicise, today Internet has made it so.Ask any women in the age group of around 60 and you will find that 80% were not happy in their marriage. But they remained there because..
They were not economically independent or didnt want to struggle in life.
They feared the society..log kya kahenge.
Secondly it was the same women who were exploited, made the life of their DIL miserable, sons were helped by mother only or rather instigated by them..
And when I write so much, it doesnt mean I have an ideal life..no I had a usual MIL and still have and today I have both..MIL and DIL and so I know the both sides of a coin. And I dont believe that to remove a malady, we must do injustice to some or misbehave.....I Make it a point, not to do anything with my DIL which rankled me as a DIL..to me as a person, it matters that I dont do anything wrong...
If yesterday men were making life miserable, so today girls should do so?Then what is the difference between them and us.When they had power, they were self centred, today if we have power, we must show them what is fair dealing.Being good is all about being fair when you have everything going for you, not doing so when you have no choice.
God made women with lot of love and care and its only they who can love others with abandon, men dont have that quality, they can love their own only. So should we abandon our qualities and embrace their vices(smoking, drinking, promiscuity) to become equal..isnt it like burning our own house to get light.
If somebody is stealing, it doesnt mean we can steal and we are not thieves.
We are much superior to men, why do want to be equal...Inspite of doing everything, my MIL has stayed with me only, and its me only who does all her work and looks after her, could my hubby do the same. Could he keep my mother for so long,without her doing anything for him and always saying bad things,NO..he would never be able to do that and so I think of myself as a much better person and human being,let him think whatever, but i dont need or want equality.