Date: 6/20/2012 6:09:00 AM
Recently i heard a woman of a young boy saying...now a days I feel afraid of what will happen, when he marry as no girl is interested in living with inlaws...
True, but has anybody thought why this mindset happened...it is because...
Parents wouldnt let the couple decide about their life,day to day living,everything has to be asked from them and done thru their consent only.
Parents think that sons are there to do and give only, if they are successful then its because of their parent's sacrifice only, so they need to repay everything with interest.
Since parents are experienced they know everything better and have a right to advise and be listened to..
Whenever children go out they must take their parents too..because they couldnt do all these things only because they devoted all their money and time to children
But now when they are suffering are they ready to learn the lesson...
I feel that for parents its enough if they can live with the children, more than that they they shouldnt desire anything..
for a happy living and happiness in the autumn they ......
Shouldnt think of interfering in what the DIL should wear, when should get up, what should they eat, where they should go or how they should bring up their children, they should only demand that they are given their choice of food at their time and looked after in illness.and their all requirements are fulfilled
Dont demand them to do certain social obligations, leave them to decide with whom they want to maintain or not and whatever they want to give, its their choice, if you have money, you can do that your self and if not, then dont bother.
Dont expect them to take you with them, rather dont go with them all the time, If you are financially and physically able to do, make your own group and do the trips,otherwise be happy to stay at home.and derive satisfaction from watching your children and grand children enjoying life...and growing up.
Never ever give unsolicited advice and dont accept responsibilities you cant perform..saying no is better than feeling bitter.Dont become the caretaker of house and children, then feel dejected.
Devote your time in spiritual pursuits and social service instead of worrying about relatives.
As far as culinary satisfaction is concerned, first in your age you cant digest heavy food, so believe in simple food,dont be a complaining type,everything has its time and place...You have passed that time...
satisfaction is the key to happiness. those who dont have it, bring unhappiness to themselves and others.
One thing I Strictly believe that whether children care for their parents or dont, its their choice but they dont have any right to disrespect them and speak rudely.period...its non negotiable
Living with parents has its advantages for the children too...grandchildren have someone in the house when parents are at work.
While going for vacations, house is not vacant making it a target for burglaries.
Whenever someone is sick there is help available from loving persons.
And above all the satisfaction one derives from doing his duty towards his parents cant be measured in words...